The Attitude of Gratitude Giving Gratitude
Being thankful for all you have to be grateful for can boost your happiness and overall well-being according to research. The act of feeling gratitude but not giving gratitude is like wrapping a present but not giving it. Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Feeling and expressing gratitude can help you feel good in the moment, think back to the last time a friend helped you out, your partner cooked you a fantastic meal. There is growing research and evidence that show that the act of giving gratitude can have a lasting effect on your mood. Studies show that the act of writing a thank you letter can make you feel happier for a month later, the simple process of writing down three things that you are grateful for each day can keep you happier for even longer.
So how can you create your attitude of gratitude. Even the ancient Stoic philosophers understood the benefit of gratitude.
There are so many ways to give gratitude, studies have shown that the best way is through keeping a gratitude journal and writing down each day things that you have been grateful for during that day, from having a roof over your head, having clean water to drink and food to nourish you.
Start by taking notice of the day-to-day world and all the things we have to be grateful for.
Keep a gratitude journal. All it requires is noting one or more things you are grateful for on a daily basis. No fancy notebook, no computer program required.
If you identify something or someone with a negative trait (the cashier who never smiles), switch it in your mind to a positive trait (the cashier who always smiles and is happy).
Gratitude requires humility, which the dictionary defines as being “modest and respectful.” Explore where it fits in your life.
Give at least one complement daily, it can be a direct compliment to another person or by sharing your appreciation of something (I love seeing the sun rise in the morning).
When you find yourself in a bad situation ask yourself: what can i learn from this, when i look back at this with no emotion attached what will i be grateful for.
For one week make a promise to yourself to not moan, criticise or gossip. Notice how much negative energy you were using on the activities.
Join a group or community that truly means something to you, make a donation it does not have to be money it could be a skill you have that would benefit others.
Give a free hug. OK, only do this when appropriate … but if you have a loved one in your life, give them a hug! Often we can go too long without showing our affection and gratitude, even to those who are closest to us.
Give thanks for today! The Dalai Lama, tells us: “Everyday, think as you wake up, ‘Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.’ ”
Pack your lunch and then give it to those you come across who need it.
Give your books a new home with a new mind.
Share an experience with a loved one or friend, maybe a sunset or sunrise or a special walk.
The above are just a few ideas to get your attitude of gratitude started, i would love to hear yours in the comments below.
I was bought a book called The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama, giving gratitude was one of his key things. I created my own Gratitude Journal and have given copies to family and friends every one of them has said how good it was to keep their own Gratitude journal. It is available on Amazon but if you contact me with your email I will get a free copy mailed over to you for you to print off and start your own journal.
I give gratitude each day for the support I have from my partner and family, I give gratitude for each day learning something new.
Today I give gratitude for you taking time to read this post.